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Healthy Family Characteristics


Basic Family Member Rights


The right to good will from each other


The right to love, encouragement and emotional support


The right to be heard and to be responded to with courtesy


The right to have your own views and beliefs


The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real


The right to live free from accusation, blame and criticism


The right to live free of emotional and physical threat


The right to live free of angry outbursts and rage


The right to be called by no name that devalues you


The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered


The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes found offensive


The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business



Basic Family Member Responsibilities


To do one's fair, agreed upon chores, jobs and duties


To be respectful, cooperative and there for one another


To try, with good will, to resolve conflicts and misunderstandings


To communicate honestly and fully (with "I statements"), sharing your thoughts, feelings, wants, etc. without imposing ("you statements", "you are...", "you should...", etc.) judgments, demands or abuse


To be true to yourself and to support one another in growth



Traits of a Healthy Family


Each member communicates and listens


Each appreciates and supports one another


Each behaves with respect for one another


There is a sense of basic trust in the family


There is play and humor


There is a sense of shared responsibility


There are values of right and wrong


There are family rituals and traditions


There is a balance of interaction among members


There is a shared spiritual core


There is respect for each member's privacy and space


There are values of helpfulness, service and cooperation


There are family meals together, conversation and sharing


There is shared leisure and recreation


There is a willingness to admit problems and feelings and seek solutions