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Healthy Family Characteristics

 

Basic Family Member Rights

 

The right to good will from each other

 

The right to love, encouragement and emotional support

 

The right to be heard and to be responded to with courtesy

 

The right to have your own views and beliefs

 

The right to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real

 

The right to live free from accusation, blame and criticism

 

The right to live free of emotional and physical threat

 

The right to live free of angry outbursts and rage

 

The right to be called by no name that devalues you

 

The right to be respectfully asked rather than ordered

 

The right to receive a sincere apology for any jokes found offensive

 

The right to clear and informative answers to questions that concern what is legitimately your business

 

 

Basic Family Member Responsibilities

 

To do one's fair, agreed upon chores, jobs and duties

 

To be respectful, cooperative and there for one another

 

To try, with good will, to resolve conflicts and misunderstandings

 

To communicate honestly and fully (with "I statements"), sharing your thoughts, feelings, wants, etc. without imposing ("you statements", "you are...", "you should...", etc.) judgments, demands or abuse

 

To be true to yourself and to support one another in growth

 

 

Traits of a Healthy Family

 

Each member communicates and listens

 

Each appreciates and supports one another

 

Each behaves with respect for one another

 

There is a sense of basic trust in the family

 

There is play and humor

 

There is a sense of shared responsibility

 

There are values of right and wrong

 

There are family rituals and traditions

 

There is a balance of interaction among members

 

There is a shared spiritual core

 

There is respect for each member's privacy and space

 

There are values of helpfulness, service and cooperation

 

There are family meals together, conversation and sharing

 

There is shared leisure and recreation

 

There is a willingness to admit problems and feelings and seek solutions