Typical Negative Beliefs Vs. Positive Self Attitudes
Below are some typical negative beliefs. Notice those that you have and contemplate a positive Self belief to replace it. Suggestions are given.
I don't deserve love. — I unconditionally love and forgive myself and experience love
I don't deserve a really good relationship. — As I create a good relationship with my Self, my outer relationships will improve
I am afraid of love — Love is what I am and it feels good
I am afraid of my "wrong" feelings — I need to acknowledge my feelings as they all have a message for me
I can be afraid of asserting myself. — I accept and express my own truth
I am afraid of expressing what I need — Consciously sharing myself is affirming myself and unless I communicate, others don't know me and can't respond
I am afraid to open up. — As I open I embrace more life I have nothing to fear because my Self is all- inclusive and invulnerable
I am afraid I will be rejected and abandoned — No one can reject me unless I give them the power (and reject myself)
Life is hard work. — Life supports me and brings me joy when I trust it and allow myself to go with it
I can't have what I really want — What I want from life and others I have to give to myself first and as I give, so will I receive
I have low self-esteem and self-worth — I cannot be confined or judged by the past because my reality and intrinsic worth as a soul is not altered by what I do or think
I am not free — I can choose to freely be myself because my life is an expression of a divine life and therefore I can trust it
Others need to change for me to be happy — I can choose those people who are good for me
I need other's love — I need to love and accept myself first
I feel guilty when I am happy — My birthright is happiness so I am.
I can't show weakness — All parts of me have a place
I can't say what I want. — As I express my truth, I become whole
I can't admit 'I don't know' — I am not judged by my thoughts as I am OK no matter what
Others can reject me and put me down — Only I, as I listen within, know the truth for me, others just have their own thoughts and ideas
I feel vulnerable — As I claim myself and my right to be who I am, I will take my power back
I can't show my hurt feelings — Feelings have a reason and a message that need to be made conscious and by expressing my feelings I demonstrate that they have no power over me
I am not good enough. — My identity and worth are given by God. Therefore I won't blame myself for being human
I have to be perfect, but can't. — To be perfect, I have to be perfectly myself by allowing all parts of myself to be
I can't relax and have fun — I can relax and allow myself to be as I am supported and guided by the life within
I have a hard time with anger — My anger is telling me something I need to hear. I can express angry thoughts without exploding
I hate self-righteous judgmental people. — I will stop judging myself negatively
I have to be in control all the time — Being in control means consciously allowing myself to be as I am and not as I "should" be
I am weak — I can and will create what I want for my life because I trust my Self
I am afraid to look at my pain. — Pain shows me where I need to change to realize myself and my potential
Life is hard, unjust — I let go and trust and do as I am given to and give thanks for all the blessings
It's painful not to be loved or not to let myself be free to be as I really am — As I accept, respect and love myself, others will also. Self-denial means pain
I am unworthy, unlovable and people give only when I do what they want — I am authentically myself and others love me as I am. It's beautiful
I have to work hard to get what I need and am afraid I won't get it. — I can chose to live by love and be who I really am. This way of life is fulfilling and it flows naturally
I don't want to be here, I need to escape. — The world I live in is my choice, my creation
I am trapped and angry and don't like the way things are but can't change it — I stay open in the moment and live freely with trust, from my heart
I need to attack to protect myself — Who I am is not affected by anything and what I experience is my choice
There is not enough for everyone — Life is abundant and will supply my every need